Congrats! You're engaged! Welcome to an exciting period in your life, the next year or so will be a whirlwind, so here are my top 8 things to do right now.
First and foremost, celebrate! Pop some bubbly, and take it all in. You and your significant other are choosing to take a huge step in your adventure in life together. I know how excited you may be to start planning right now, but that can wait. You will be planning the details out for the next year, more or less. This moment only happens once.
2. Tell your loved ones
Make sure to tell your closest loved ones in person or on the phone. That ring picture post on Instagram and Facebook can wait till after you tell Grandma Jean and Aunt Sharon. Once your nearest and dearest know, go ahead and make things Facebook official. Or don’t. This is all about you and your soon to be spouse, so take all advice in, but ultimately, do what you want!
3. Take a deep breath
Trust me, time is about to move 2x faster. You will be preoccupied with details and scheduling vendors (cake tasting, catering tasting, venue tours!). Time is going to fly and before you know it, you’ll be staring down the aisle.
4. Discuss your initial ideas with your Spouse-to-be
These first thoughts don’t have to be set in stone and it’s important that both people make sure that what they want is vocalized. Maybe one of you wants a small and intimate ceremony and maybe the other insists on a s’more bar. This is also a good time to think about how much you want to spend.
5. Choose your date
Nothing makes the wedding planning feel more real than having a date picked out! There's a few ways to go about choosing a day, and a few things to consider. Choosing an off season date could save some money; lots of vendors offer a discount for off season weddings (myself included). You might have consider a significant date from your relationship. If you have your heart set on a specific venue, you may have to choose a few dates and look for availability.
6. Get Organized!
There are tons of things that need to happen between now and your big day. The more organized you are, the better. I recommend Wedding Wire, they have a nice database of vendors to help you find anything from planners, to officiants to florists and in between. Wedding Wire also offers a checklist by the month of what needs to happen to keep you on task. Assemble your bridal committee, your maid of honor, moms of the engaged are all good places to start looking for some man power.
7. Look for inspiration
There's no shortage of inspiration of beautiful weddings online. Pinterest is always a good place to start. Save any must have poses or things you like to its own board. I like when clients show me a board of must have shots and poses or give me a list.
Try not to go too overboard and remember that depending on budget, not everything you see on Pinterest or Instagram will be possible. Be sure to make it your own, this is about your love story and should have elements that scream “you” incorporated!
8. Book your engagement shoot
You’re likely in the beginning stages of your vendor search. The photos used on your invites (don’t worry too much about invites yet!) typically come from the engagement shoot. Engagement shoots are also a fun way to get to know your photographer, and several (like me) offer engagement sessions complimentary with their wedding packages.